Creating the Future.
A wonderful argument for and against scenarios ......
"The future is not a result of choices among alternative paths
offered by the present, but a place that is created -- created
first in the mind and will, created next in activity. The future
is not some place we are going to, but one we are creating. The
paths are not to be found, but made, and the activity of making
them, changes both the maker and the destination."
- John Schaar
[Conversations with Dina]
If control is so important to us, why do so many of us put up with not participating in the co creation of our future. We wait for our partners to change, our bosses to make the call or worse, the government to save us. The Greeks talk about the idea of "Destiny", the Romans talk about "Fortuna". Neither is predetermined and neither has much to do with our concept of "luck". Maybe the idea of Destiny and Fortuna fits the quote about co creation of the future.
It is hard to see our own destiny, but we can often see that our friends and our family make their own future. My sister expects to be cheated by everyone - and so she is. My friend Tim tells himself that he is trapped in both his work and marriage. He first told me about this 8 years ago - he is still trapped.
Positively my daughter feels that money and work will always come her way - and they do. My friend James always seems to have fortune smile upon him - work, SOS, Children - is he "lucky"? No he makes his luck happen by the choices, the discipline, and the energy that he puts into his life. Hope and James put a huge effort into their relationships with others. Diana and Tim hold back. I wonder if this is a clue? To co create a positive future seems that to require that you have to pay attention to the others in your life. Put into the other rather only than expect things from the other.