Wilson Ng started helping the family business since 9 years old. Since then, he had dreamt to be a successful entrepreneur, one who starts great businesses  ( he has started 7) from scratch with insight, guts and initiative. He keeps his focus on growing the business by creating value-- not on politics, or wasteful distractions. He brings the same focus to community service, teaching, life and family.

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	Wednesday, November 03, 2004

Its All about Perspective  ( on life) One of my favorite quotes was something I heard ten or so years ago, and all these years it has been with me.  It goes, "All generalizations are wrong, including this one. "  Indeed, life is so interesting, and is never simple, and even in the management, there is always no one theory fits all.  Beware of books or authors that says otherwise....  In short, you have the right to question whatever I write here too. I have had over a dozen comments on my post " when feeling good overcomes being good"  ( you might want to read this first if you háven't) , some of them in private emails, and some in various forums.  While many have been encouraging, I have had some comments that I was being too hard, especially on the children. I understand.  For every situation where people became better because you have been tough, there will be a situation to cite where people grew because you have been encouraging and patient.  So there is really no right or wrong, except on what works on specific circumstances.  My favorite answer in my MBA class was, in three words,  "it all depends", and I got always high grades for it.  Of course, I had to defend what I usually meant, too. Its all about your frame of experience, and the perspective at which you are looking at.  And talking about perspective, a person can only manage his life and his business well if he has the ability to understand different perspectives, and evaluate it accordingly. Curiously, most of the comments come from the United States, and while they defend the way they treat their children by giving unconditional love, they have been mum on being tough on the workplace. In some way, the American way of doing business espouses fending for your own, earning your keep, and that generally engenders the understanding of the manager to be tough on workers standards.  As opposed to communism which espouses the equitable sharing irregardless of contribution,  Uncompromising standards continues to make the US economy the envy of the world.  However, a very logical manager who understand this fails miserably in the house when they cease to be logical, and become emotional.   Yes, we should give unconditional love ( and loads of pocket money ) to our children even if they don't earn it.  But it is well that they understand we will be  the only people doing it, and the world is not going to be kind to them like we parents are, and our unconditional love and money alone is not going to be enough for them to live a happy fulfilled life.   One of the great things I am thankful about was that I grew and live in difficult circumstances, in a country amidst much poverty.  Here you see children who do not know where their next meal is going to come from.   On the other hand, you see rich kids who when they get together comment on what shabby treatment they get at this or that five star hotel, and how their steaks were overcooked.  Their definition of a traumatic experience is being stucked in traffic for 2 hours, or being held up in an airport for four hours.  Understanding that people come from different backgrounds is key.   Its all about perspective.  But I still would like to reiterate on what I write which I believe is a good principle to follow in MOST circumstances -- to our children and to our employees, the more we love them, the more we should help them understand perspective and be uncompromising in helping them become better.  If there is one thing we should develop in them, it should be their talent, and their BACKBONE. 9:35:46 AM     comment []   trackback []

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