a friend of mine upon realizing that her boy-friend was making up a story about a flat tire turned on his computer to find that the man was having/grooming relations with quite a number of other women.
a little research revealed that he was a a motel with another woman. some spectacular upset, and a telephone confrontation with the man in the motel later, she's gotten to clarity about how that relationship was not for her.
she's got the same f* conflict about wanting to trust.. and knowing that trusting in this case would only go against herself.
while not _that charged about my little upset today, I can really relate to her upset because i've been in the same boat before.
what do you _do_ with these people internally? on the outside we can let other's know that they are being lied to.. but having ignored our own little voices.. what chances are there that others could or would hear from the outside what they blind themselves to on the inside.
tough stuff. yucky too.