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    | Theory of Mind doesn't quite cut it for explaining AS individuals' lack of social skills.  The trick to being seen as socially effective is not really to "be a good listener" but rather to "appear" to be a good listener.  The socially effective person (SEP) attends to relevant stimuli (e.g., pauses, vocal intensity, non-verbals) and responds in kind.  Any clinician knows that you don't really listen to content all the time...it's just not possible to catch every word when you're seeing 7 or 8 hours of clients in a day.  So, the SEP doesn't have to "know" what others are thinking or feeling (a la Theory of Mind).  This model misses the point.
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