I now understand why I don't have that many girlfriends. Girls can be total utter bitches..for lack of a better word. Girls backstab in order to get ahead or make themselves look better. Girls will put another girl down just to pretend that she isn't jealous of them. Girls pretend to be there for you, pretend to be your friend and then turn around and put you down.
Guys aren't like this or at least the guys I've met in my life and the ones that are my friends. Guys will tell you straight out how it is. I've never had a guy friend that has backstabbed me in order to get ahead in life. Guys would never pretend to be your friend - either they are or aren't.
I came to this realization yesterday, a supposely good friend of mine who has been there for me or possibly has just pretended to be there for me, totally put down my dating issues in front of everyone at work. She said that I've been dating all the wrong guys...why do I continue to date geeks? This came about yesterday when this guy emailed me and I saw his picture and no attraction but we also have nothing in common and I didn't want to hurt his feelings and I just asked her opinion on the subject. She got everyone involved in the conversation, all the women starting putting me down and telling me that I date the wrong guys. And the only person who stood up for me, was a guy!
Now the question is: are they jealous because I actually have dates and they don't? I need to be physically attracted to someone but also I need that someone to be smart enough to hold a conversation with me. Therein lies the problem with this girl - she would never date any of the same guys I date because one I doubt she is that smart and two we are two different people.
I've been told that she has said bad things about some of my work in a sales meeting in order to make herself look better..I let this one pass. But I think from now on..no more confiding in her for anything.
She has also been so clinging to the point that I'm scared of why she is like that. She did something to a friend that truly pissed me off and I guess I should have seen it then but I wanted to have a real girlfriend in my life..no more.
I'll stick with having guy friends..they are much more honest
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