http://www.spiked-online.com/articles/00000002D3A7.htm
no linear breakdown that completely ignores the fact that perhaps people never learned intimate communication skills from their parents; parents too incompetent and driven from the outside to have the time to think, the time to relate, the time to be. to that prof parents are gods still.
you can not individuate outside of relationships, you need relationships and depth in same to understand who you are. without relationships your deep wounds are never seen, never felt, never healed.
its just fear and not knowing. coders learn to live with that. who else? the obvious is not what it appears.