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Starter Marriages. Supposedly, I am a member of GenX, lucky me. This article is BS. I mean, we don't need starter marriages to tell us if things are going to work out for the longer term or to teach us how to do better next time. That's what "going steady" is for... that's what "living together is for."
OK, so I am biased after 13 years of marriage, happily. Then again, no one in my immediate family is divorced. None of my grandparents got divorced.
I agree that some problem marriages would've never been identified in its beginnings... abuse, non-commitment, etc.
The article says, some people are so focused on the wedding, the main event... that they don't think 50 years down the road. <groan> What about all the time they spent together prior to the engagement?
The fact that we're living longer? Hmm... that's a new concept since I'm hearing about family friends who are separating after over 30 years of marriage. One set of grandparents were married 50+ years before one spouse died. The other set of grandparents, not sure the number of years married, but my Dad (the youngest) was 16 when his mother died -- his sister was 30. Obviously, this marriage lasted over 30 years.
Maybe this debate is pointless. People co-habitate for years, sometimes never getting married. Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have kids without ever saying, "I do."
Are we becoming so lax that the defintion of family now means, "whoever is under the roof?" 3:42:48 PM 
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