I had an interesting conversation with a guy friend of mine last night about why guys do what they do..at least from his viewpoint which explains somewhat about Todd's behavior.
Guys get scared because most girls don't say what they want or if they do, its not what they really want and there is boundary confusion. Then you find a girl that a)says what she wants and b) really means it then they (guys) don't trust it or get scared because all their training has been dealing with game playing and/or confused feelings. Hence the confusion or the freaked out feelings and they stop writing and calling because they don't want to say their not interested or that they are freaked out or confused and its better to play it cool and just vanish for awhile figuring eventually the girl will get the idea.
I get all that and girls/women get scared too but what pisses me off in general is for the last 3 months we were talking and being honest with each other and talking about just being friends, see what happens and now he's disappeared..friends don't disappear from each other or at least that's how I feel about my friends. And if its just confusion or freakin out..what the hell? Stop being a coward and tell me is all I'm asking..yea it may hurt but at least its out there and I can deal with it instead of total silence which tends to piss me off. General feeling at this point...his loss. General thought: I had enough of the game playing in my life and I mean what I say, I get the idea of the disappearing act but it doesn't work with me at some point he is going to have to tell me the truth.
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