Death - My grandmother is dying. The doctor says she only has about two or three weeks to live. Grandma is 79. I took my family to see her yesterday. She's living with my Mum and Dad.
What struck me as amazing was the pace at which she is "going downhill." When Grandma first moved in with Mum and Dad she seemed fine. She'd been diagnosed with lung cancer and was undergoing treatment.
My Grandma has always been a strong and independant woman. Granddad had died when I was five or six - some thirty years ago, and my grandmother had lived a solitary life ever since [except for the year she was married to el creepo]. She fought in the second world war in the Women's Auxillary and saw active service overseas. Always involved with community service, Grandma was a volunteer with the Royal Blind Society, Court Support and the Spastic Centre. Which was kind of odd - becasue she was never the doting grandmother or great grandmother.
Easily annoyed and liking things "just so" Grandma stamped her forceful personality at every gathering she attended.
I love my Grandma.
She and I have always gotten on really well. And yesterday when I visited I did my usual bowl right up and start talking to people - no matter how sick or incapable of response they are. I asked her about the cricket and about the rose she had next to her. I asked about the massaging chair she was reclining in.
I did note the pale color, the blood blisters all over her legs and the "little girl" look in her eyes.
My mum was really surprised that she had answered me and we had a rudimentary conversation. But as the afternoon wore on, Grandma became more and more tired I guess - She would look as though she was going to answer me and then...not. When we finally said goodbye and left it was as though she didn't recognise me at all.
There are secondaries of the cancer in her brain.
What I found interesting was that all of the old, how should we say, "negative attributes" of her personality were gone and replace with a graciousness and peacefulness that I'd never seen in her before.
You'd have to call it noble.
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